Sex, Sun and The Peltzman effect – Why Playing It Safe Is Ruining Your Life

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Decision making is not what it used to be.

Back in the old days, when life was simple and we all lived in a black and white world, we had no health and safety minefields to carefully navigate. There was no social media to shame us into behaving a certain way, and no Daily Mail to remind us that if cancer doesn’t get you – the immigrants certainly will.

To be honest – we barely even thought about the consequences of our actions.

We were fearless. We went with our gut. We did what we thought was best.

Even now, I’m convinced the whole idea of ‘pros and cons’ was invented by an indecisive person as a way to help other indecisive people to become more… indecisive.

‘Go on; write out the pros and cons’.

‘Really…? Do you think that will help?’

‘I don’t know… lets write out the pros and cons and see if it’s a good idea…’

‘Brilliant’.

…………………..

We’re living in fear.

As kids, the monsters would lurk under our beds. We knew the score. Don’t dangle your leg over the edge once the lights went out or you wouldn’t get it back. It was an unwritten (but strictly adhered to) rule.

As adults, the rules have changed. There aren’t any. We now have doubts, insecurities and confusion.

It’s too complicated. What if I do this? What if I do that? What happens next? It’s enough to send a reasonably sane and rational person into the corner so they can cluck like a chicken and shit their pants.

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40 Amazing Personal Development Bloggers to Watch In 2015 (plus my number 1 blog of the year)

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I know what you’re thinking. How did I get my hands on so many police mug shots huh? I’m only joking. Those 40 incredibly attractive individuals you see in the picture are my pick of the bloggers to rock my world over the last 12 months. Yes, it’s completely subjective […]

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Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

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The weight of expectation is crushing. Yet nobody is saying a word. I’m not hearing voices, nor can I feel the penetrative gaze of a thousand beady eyes, all fixated on my very being; anticipating something magical and wondrous to emerge from these hesitant fingers. But it’s there. I stare […]

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10 Cunning Ways to Grow Your Business and Earn More Money

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Starting your own business is difficult. By the very nature of the term – you have to actually start something, which invariably means you have nothing to begin with. No clients, no products and no profits. Each day is a new adventure. You have no idea where this story ends. […]

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4 Imaginary Problems You’re Experiencing Right Now (and how to fix them)

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It’s human nature to believe we’re just one small change away from greatness. If only we could do this or do that – everything would be perfect. Our wants, wishes, dreams and desires mix with our regrets, our pain and our envy to create the perfect illusion of a puzzle […]

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6 Survival Tips For the Recently Unemployed (or how quitting your job can rock your world)

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Have you ever been fired from a job? Not in a mutual termination, or a ‘sorry, we’re not renewing your contract’ kind of way, but a proper disciplinary hearing followed by a swift kick up the arse and a see you later (and never come back) kind of way. I […]

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Deus ex Machina – How to Create Something Out of Nothing by Playing God With Your Life

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If you don’t know the difference between your Pawns and your Kings, and you think a Queen is someone who brings the life and soul to a party then you probably aren’t too familiar with chess. It’s ok because most of us haven’t a clue how to play it either […]

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Are You Willing To Die?

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The first few metres are erratic. The cold, angular edges of the building threaten to tear his hands to shreds, but there is no going back. Fearful of being interrupted by the authorities, he sprints upwards; aiming to finish his ascent as quickly as possible. This is by no means […]

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9 Dumb Reasons Why You Fail (and the number 1 secret to success)

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It’s not nice being a failure is it? You try your best, but you can’t help shake the feeling you’re destined for the scrapheap. Every day is the same old shit and there’s not even a Groundhog in sight. It’s not so much the routine, although boredom drives you to […]

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The Little Things

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It’s 11.53 on a scorching Friday morning and for the second time in as many days; the air conditioning fails to satisfy its end of the bargain. Kevin, a smartly dressed man in his late twenties, with an impeccable hairstyle and a looming deadline, wipes the sweat from his brow […]

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6 Weird Ways Religion Is Influencing Your Brain (as proven by science)

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It should probably come as no surprise that my belief in a God resides somewhere between Father Christmas and England’s chances of ever winning another World Cup. Oh I’ve tried. As a wide eyed and impressionable pre-teen I was given a copy of the bible during an early Religious Studies […]

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What Really Turns You On?

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I know how you feel. It’s not immediately obvious, but you can tell something isn’t quite right. Nothing serious enough to warrant more than a passing thought, but it’s there, lurking in the background, slowly sucking the joy from your very existence. Am I getting warm? Also, although they may […]

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5 Popular Self-Help Tips That Are Full of Shit

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You’re not very happy are you? Be honest. There is something nagging away. As your friends are chatting, cracking jokes and enjoying a glass of wine; you’re trying to join in with the fun but something is holding you back. An invisible rope, fastened around your torso, tightening the slack […]

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Why Excellence Is a Full Time Job

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The 2014 Brazilian World Cup is one of beauty, prestige and flamboyance – where the true modern footballing greats gather in gladiatorial combat in a quest to discover which country can rightfully claim to be the best on earth. Andrea Pirlo is one of these greats; an Italian player who […]

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21 Quick And Easy Ways Of Freeing Up More Time

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Right, you bunch of lazy bastards. It’s time to wake up, slap yourself in the face and realise that you’re all living a lie. There is no such thing as not having enough time. It’s an excuse, an illusion. The truth is, either you’re terrible at organising your day or […]

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